Pushy Sales People - How to deal with it

 I'm getting people on Twitter (X) and Instagram who are advertising services. I have even purchased some services from these people. What we need to talk about is when people get pushy and how we deal with it. 

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While some people understand you aren't just the money they make, others just want a sale - and they want it right now! In my DMs, a good half of the salespeople who reach out are these pushy salespeople. I give credit to those who have not tried to shove me into a sale. Those people might get my money later on (for real, they might). 

Online and in-person are two different problems, though. You see, I can stop responding to pushy people rather easily in my DMs. I can even block pushy salespeople in my DMs. In-person interaction is not as easy to deal with. We'll talk about general advice and what to do when someone is standing in front of you. 

We'll also talk about why pushy sales practices don't work. I have elaborated as to why they don't work. The outcomes are not good.  

Why Pushy Sales Don't Work

If you've ever avoided in-person retail stores because you hate salespeople pushing you into anything, you aren't alone. The number one word in a HubSpot survey about salespeople was "pushy".  HubSpot suggests several things to be a less avoidable salesperson. I'll give you the basic gist, but you can look at the whole thing in my sources (the first link). 

Many of these rules are basic decency, such as letting your prospect off the phone, not messaging repeat messages, and not spamming. Others can be summed up as listening to objections and not saying "but..." in response. It states you should take no for an answer. If you are with a salesperson online or in person who doesn't do this, ask for a new person or leave. Stop interacting with them entirely. Online you have the luxury of blocking them. It's much easier online. At the end of the day, getting a sale comes down to creating a relationship and understanding when to back off. 

I can tell you why pushy doesn't work. Introverts like me will run for the hills and take ten steps back, no matter what you offer and how great it is. Being loud at someone who doesn't want your attention is the worst way to sell something. They might dodge you by leaving the store or ghosting/blocking you. DMs can also be "loud", especially when you spam someone and insist on an answer when they clearly aren't interested. I lead those messages with the fact I'm not a guaranteed sale. Not listening as a salesperson can cost you sales in the future. Pay attention. "I'm here if you need help" goes a long way. Learn from bookstore salespeople. They know what they are doing. 

Mind And Metrics talks about sales tactics that don't work anymore. Online sales have changed the game for many salespeople. We can do the research. We don't usually need help looking up the information (minus a few cases here and there). The first sales tactic they condemn is excessive contact. This is bombarding customers with emails, calls, texts, or messages. Unless someone is actively responding and interested, give them 24 hours before sending anything else. Another mistake is telling instead of asking. So, "you need this" vs "do you want my services?". I don't think I have to explain why this turns anyone off (especially me). Rushing customers will also wreck a sale. I have experienced this personally and no one who rushed me is getting my business. Pushing the most expensive packages in an era where Google is at someone's fingertips is also a mistake. Arguing, interrupting, faking enthusiasm, and selling to the wrong people are not good either. 

What's worse than a pushy salesperson, though? The aftershock of it to whomever they represent - or they block their own success in their small business. Why is that? Let me explain. The tactics you just read about can make someone with no backbone buy something to get a person off their back, but they'll never come back and their word of mouth might deter others. Others may just walk out and report aggressive sales behavior on the internet, where the business takes the blow and a bad review is posted. Like me, others hate the pushy "buy my stuff" attitude and won't suggest or use that business because we don't want to work with pushy people. Too much rude spamming and argumentative behavior will shove clients out the door and bury a business. One bad salesperson might not take it down with them (especially if they are not hired for long), but consistent bad salespeople can take a business and wreck it. Or they can kill off their own business. 

How To Deal With Salespeople Who Get Pushy

The first tip is to ask yourself if they are assertive or aggressive. Assertive will give you more information when you hesitate and ask questions to understand you more. Aggressive will push to get the sale and get frustrated at you, maybe threatening that the discount is for a limited time only. In other words, if they don't accept "no" as an answer, you've got an aggressive one on your hands. 

Secondly, be aware of your emotions. Listen to your instincts. If someone tries to guilt you into a product or feels phony they are playing you. Trying too hard to be your friend is a neon sign. When you buy with a spouse, don't let them separate you and always present a united front. Trying to get one person to agree to a higher price by coaxing them away from their partner is dirty dealing. Don't fall for it. 

Say you are just looking every time. You're not? Too bad. Say it anyway. It sets a boundary right off the bat. "No, thank you" and "No" are phrases you should be able to say to salespeople everywhere. No is a complete sentence. Say it if you're not interested. It saves both you and the salesperson time.

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Also, come there with research (car lots, appliances, big purchases...). Say you have a limited budget in car lots. It helps them not add stuff or suggest add-ons.  Say you don't have time for a sales pitch and create your own time limit. It shuts down what you didn't ask to hear. This is good for car sales, but also for many other areas. Let them know you are open to all the options. On cars, it is also better to finance your own (not dealer financing). Eat before you get there so you don't rush yourself by needing lunch. Again, specifically on cars, visit dealerships towards the end of the month because sales quotas leave no time for long-winded pitches. 

Knowing a real limited-time offer from a fake one is huge. It gives you the power to call their bluff in the store or showroom. If someone dodges questions it is a red flag. Go elsewhere if the questions are being dodged or they refuse to clarify (or make it more confusing). 

Oh, and my favorite thing (sarcasm), artificial deadlines! Don't let them shove you into that. It's a sham. There is no deadline most of the time. Some things are limited time, but if someone claims "you must buy it now!" without giving you time to think it's dirty sales. Insist you need to speak to someone about it or tell them you need time to think in a firm voice. If you need to leave, do so. I'd even advocate the risk of being called a "Karen" and calling a manager. When the manager shows up (or they are the manager),  leave that complaint with their name attached to it. I don't often advocate complaints, but this might actually stop them from being pushy in the future. 

Phone salespeople are never fun, unless you asked for the call yourself. If you didn't, ask to be removed from their call list and hang up. Don't feel guilty about it. Don't prolong the conversation. While you could have fun with them and try to keep them on the line for an extended time, I wouldn't do that all the time. Also, phone calling is exhausting so they might just hate their job (in some isolated cases). Be merciful.

Stall that salesperson. Say you'll come back later. I do this in my messages and ghost them. Many have gotten the hint and others message days later asking for a yes or no. In person is when this is the most effective, as long as you never come back. As a seller at a flea market, this hits differently. Flea markets are full of little vendors and you have to make a decision on what you truly want. Sometimes it isn't pushy people that make customers say "I'll come back"; sometimes you're in a flea market or there are too many options to choose from. But in the case of pushy, this at least gets them off your back. 

Remember commissions exist. Those people that say "oh, but it isn't complete without (fill in the blank)" probably get some money from add-ons. Bring friends for a second opinion when dress shopping and getting cars. Extended warranty anyone? Yeah, they only want the commission. 

Watch your agenda and the agenda of the person trying to sell to you. If their agenda is to get you to pay more than x amount of dollars and you don't intend to, you can push back more effectively once you've figured it out. It gives you control when you know the agendas of who you're talking to. In this case, "no" will be effective. You can then take control and enforce your agenda (for example, the goal to only spend Y amount of dollars in the store). Ask yourself "where will their agenda take me?" or "if I look at exceptions will I see this differently?". Bias shows up everywhere. When you find it you'll save yourself from manipulation. That's a good thing to do in any situation with pushy people.

Repeat yourself. Be a broken record. Avoid "I can't" and go straight to "don't", "won't", and "no". This is hard to do in person. This is easy to do online. I ghost and block online. It gets the job done. In person, though, you have to have that backbone. Say you are not interested in a firm, strong voice. 

Let me add one thing here; they are people, too. Remain calm, firm, and kind. Make complaints if you need to and tie their name to that complaint. There is an option for making them uncomfortable, but put yourself in their place. I know petty is what comes out in some people, but please, don't harass any individuals if you opt to make them uncomfortable. Look them in the eye, say you need them to leave you alone, and move on. It's the higher road. Besides, if they still pursue you can add that to a complaint (tied to their name). This is one situation where "I want to talk to your manager" is appropriate. They can call you a "Karen" if they want to, but it is a power move to talk to their manager and leave a complaint. It might make them stop the aggressive sales tactics. 

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I wrote a book! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.

Sources:

15 Bad Habits That Make Salespeople Seem Pushy (And How to Correct Them) (hubspot.com)

7 Pushy Sales Tactics You Need to Ditch Yesterday (mindandmetrics.com)

Why Pushy & Aggressive Sales Doesn’t Work (And What You Should Do Instead) (linkedin.com)

5 Common Mistakes That Salespeople Make (and How To Avoid Them) | by Hasan YILDIZ | Growado | Medium

8 Tips for Dealing with Pushy Salespeople | Mental Floss

15 Genius Tactics for Dealing with Pushy Salespeople - Tesla Tale

13 no bullsh*t ways to deal with a pushy person (practical guide) - Hack Spirit

how to deal with cold-calling salespeople who won't take no for an answer — Ask a Manager

Protect Yourself From Pushy People | Psychology Today

Reading Opinions Explored - Is it okay to DNF a book?

 DNF stands for Do Not Finish. Today we're looking at what everyone says about not finishing the books you pick up and why people don't finish books. 

As I clean up my overstuffed bookshelves I openly DNF books. As I do the read-it-or-unhaul-it challenge I've learned to DNF what I don't like. Today we're discussing what makes someone DNF a book and the pros and cons of doing so. Please note we're talking about leisure reading and not school/work project books. 

Sadly, you can't DNF a book for a school or work project. The best way to suffer through a book you hate is to read the cliff notes first and then skim it. It is easy to find most cliff notes for school book reports because most schools use almost the same novels. It just depends on what is actually online and what isn't. 

When You Should DNF 

Sometimes you aren't sure whether you should give up or not. Is the book going to get better later? Am I just overreacting? Does the plot pick up the pace? Here are some ways you can judge when to stop. 

100 pages is a good landmark to stop if you aren't into it. If you are distracted while reading it is a warning sign. When your social media, other books, or video games outrank the current book in your hand that's your sign. Give it a fair shot when you assess what you think.  25 or 30 percent is another marker you can set for yourself. It isn't for you if you still hate it or are not interested by then. Others say four chapters is a good marker because the stage is typically set by four, even if it starts slowly. 

There are days you need to check your mood and put it back on the shelf temporarily. A heavy book on a heavy day isn't a great idea, nor is a light book when you need something deep to contemplate. Temporary DNFing is fine when you aren't in the mood for something. Come back later. If you still aren't into it on another day, you might want to DNF it permanently. 

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If you can pinpoint exactly what you don't like about a book it'll give you a better indication of what you do like in books. It means you'll DNF less books in the long run. However, if you can find something you hate in a book and can point to it directly it is a serious gamble to keep going. Keep a list of what you DNF and find the pattern to figure out what you don't like. 

Reading books you hate puts you right into reading slumps. Those aren't fun. Reading should be fun. Don't make leisure reading a chore. Stop reading what you don't want to read. Does it spark joy? Stop if it doesn't. Life is too short to read books you don't enjoy. You only have so much time to read books. If it feels like a waste of time and you want another book on your shelf more, drop your current book and move on. You only have so much time on Earth, so let's enjoy it. 

Is this book a trigger to personal issues? Is it so brutal you can't finish it? Is there a rape scene or other traumatic scenes that trigger your own personal trauma and past? Put it down. If you want to struggle through it that's your choice. If you can't, you can't. No judgment. I couldn't struggle through Game of Thrones. I found out later I wasn't alone in that. 

Do you care about the main character? No? Do you hate the main character? Yes? That's probably a neon sign. Storylines you care nothing about suck in general. I'm sorry, but it's true. Put it down. Donate the book. The same goes for writing styles you hate. The original Sherlock Holmes is insufferable to read through for me. It comes across as Watson feeding Sherlock's ego without question, unlike the modern interpretations that show Watson having a brain. That's a personal example of disliking a writing style. 

Not your genre? That's fine. While there is something to be said for trying new things, if you've tasted it and said "no thanks" you are more than welcome to skip it. Reading new things teaches you what you don't like and like. Go with what you like and love. You'll have more fun. 

Beware the hype! Don't trust all the reviews (authors don't like to tear down other authors most times). If it is from an author you like you're probably safe to proceed. A lot of DNFed books are overhyped books. Read the test chapter. Wait until the reviews add up and look at the average rating of stars. Watch the YouTubers read it and see what happens. Don't jump in immediately. 

When You Shouldn't DNF 

First of all, if you are reading it for a book report or work project forget DNFing it. I'm sorry if you hate it, but go ahead and cliff notes/skim so you don't go insane. Most books have cliff notes. If they don't, find a particularly detailed bunch of reviews. Movies and books differ, so I wouldn't try the "watch the movie, skip the book" method here. Some books, like James Bond and Jurassic Park, are not the same as their movie counterparts. Be careful. 

One con of giving it up entirely (for you can temporarily DNF a book and return to it later) is that you never know the ending. This won't matter to those who don't care about the plot. If you need to know the ending, the book being good or not, you'll most likely keep reading. 

Maybe a book you DNF is not your comfort zone or normal genre. In this case, you might want to give it an honest try. If you hate it, don't pick up the genre again. Or the author again. Or that type of plotline again. The only way to find out if you like it is to try it. Get out of that comfort zone. This is both a reason why people DNF books and a bad reason to DNF a book. Grow as a reader. You might surprise yourself with what you like. 

Some books are harder to read (writing style, a classic) and that's a fact. I'm talking about older English, like The Scarlet Letter. You'll get used to it, but not if you are tired. Read it in sections if you need to. Seriously, don't marathon a book that is hard to read. An audiobook with it might help you, too. Book in hand and being read to does aid your understanding. The Bible is one book you might want to do this with (in Numbers or anywhere you see strange words). 

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Why People Suffer Through It

Some people suffer through something because they borrowed it from a friend or a friend recommended it to them. You trust your friend, right? Well, how could they be wrong about a book? You'll surely not hate the whole thing, right? Well, sometimes they have different reading standards than you do. It's also awkward to say you didn't read it to their face. The peer pressure to take a book you might not like into your library - because it was a gift from someone you love - is strong. You feel pressured to read all of it and be able to talk about the book with your friend. Or tell your friend your opinion. I'm sure your friend won't be offended if you don't like their favorite novel. Trust me. 

Another reason you might suffer through a book you are not into is that you're halfway or part of the way through it, already. Why not finish it when you're 100 pages into a 230-page book? Honestly, if the book is mediocre (and you want to skim the rest out of stubborn devotion), I wouldn't blame you. 

Did you buy it thinking it might be great? Yeah, that's a reason some people suffer through a book. You bought it and now you feel you have to read it eventually. I feel the same way about the Alex Cross (used to collect it, now I don't). If it isn't your thing you don't have to read it. Donate it. Someone else can read it. 

"Maybe it gets better" or "I want a full opinion on it" are tied together because they have the same logic. Both seek to see what is good about the book. Both reasons are valid. Reviewers often have to read it all. While you can review a DNFed book (being honest about when you stopped), professional reviewers usually push through to the end.

Completionism is a real reason to slog through it. You know those people who get all the achievements in games? Those people suffer through to the last page. They are wired to complete it.

Gleaning new information about a topic is another reason you'll see people hang in there. Sometimes nerds and geeks want all the lore. This means not every book is your jam. Maybe you just want the backstory of a character in a series like FNAF. Needing the knowledge of it to teach it or converse about it goes hand-in-hand with the idea of gleaning lore. Sometimes we have to talk about it and need the lore to do that. 

Lastly, there is a portion of books that have good endings and bad beginnings. Or the book just starts slow. Sometimes you have to push past some genus and species of fish (Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea) or a long portion of history about Waterloo and Nuns (Les Miserables). You might get a long description of the Notre Dame Cathedral (Hunchback of Notre Dame). Many books have slow sections. When they are worth it you'll thank yourself. 

Conclusions

All around the book community and reading community you'll find that it is okay to DNF books. You are a reader no matter how many you do or don't finish. Trying stuff out is also a great way to know what you like. Over time, you'll ideally DNF less leisure reading as you understand what genres and authors you like. Currate that bookshelf to what you love. DNFing also doesn't mean the book is bad every time. Not every media is made for you. This is why we donate and give away books if they aren't damaged irreparably or have mold. 

DNFing is also a great way to find what you hate and don't want to own. This helps you waste less money on books you don't like. Bookstore purchases should be what you love. If you need to check it out on the library app or at the physical library building, do it. I'd highly suggest testing before buying. My own book is in the library system if you are inclined to do that with my novel, Wrenville. 

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I wrote a book! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.

Sources:

When It's Time To DNF a Book and What To Do Next | Book Riot

Should You DNF A Book? Pros and Cons To Consider! (brewingwriter.com)

Is It Okay To DNF A Book? DNFing Books Explained - What We Reading

The Reader's Dilemma: When to DNF Books | For the Joy of Books

Why It’s Completely Okay to DNF a Book - Cozy Critiques

The Art of DNFing: When and How to Abandon a Book - The Bookish Mom

Why do people force themselves to finish af book? : r/books (reddit.com)

The Yellow Wallpaper - a short story review

 When you think about yellow wallpaper do you think about female hysteria cures? Now you will. Today I'm reviewing a short suspense story about a woman dealing with depression. Her "cure" was to do nothing at all at home. Let's dive in. 

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The basic, overall plot is this; a woman dealing with postpartum depression is given the "cure" of staying home and doing nothing, only to start losing her mind and seeing the wallpaper come to life. It is so much more than that, but there are your cliff notes. If you want more context see the video below. If you don't care about historical context (but you really should), go straight to my review. 

The Review

Five out of five. It is literally fifteen pages and one page of introduction in my copy. It's a pamphlet of a story published in 1892 when the "rest cure" was common. The author went through the rest cure, decided she'd had enough, then gave it up. She wrote this and sent it to the physician who suggested it. He amended his cure as a direct result. The alternate title should be "Why We Always Listen To Women". 

The characters are Jennie (the housekeeper and John's sister), John (the husband) and our main character secretly journaling. She has a child, but a woman named Mary is caring for it while she is ill. Our main character sleeps during the day, stares at the wallpaper at night, and cries often. She is dealing with depression after just having a child. Her husband is no help and says she's making it up. The lack of stimulation leads her to observe the wallpaper and see a trapped woman shake what seems to be bars, as in prison or jail bars, within the wallpaper. 

Let's pause at the woman behind the wallpaper real quick. She sees this woman more clearly as she becomes more restless and is left alone more often. Her husband is a horrible husband who infantilizes her like she is a child. He makes the marriage about him. She's supposed to be better for his sake, her child's sake, and then her sake. She's put last in the marriage. Imagination is put down like it is something only for children. Funnily enough, the bedroom with the wallpaper was a nursery. The story claims he's gotten irritable and kind of cross. She tries to say her ideas and he says they are not good, silencing her from speaking her mind. In my opinion, the woman behind the wallpaper represents her, trapped in a marriage and a mental state of distress and depression, seemingly with no way out.

Now we get to the end, where she goes way off the deep end, or so it seems. If you watched the video above you'll know what Books 'n' Cats has to say about the ending. You didn't? Go ahead and watch it. I'll wait. Now that you've checked that out, let's continue. The deep end of this mental pool is her becoming the woman behind the wallpaper. She "frees" the woman in the wallpaper by ripping down the wallpaper, all of it and not one strip remaining. She locks her husband out, throws the key out the into the garden, and makes him go get it. 

I'm with Books 'n' Cats in this regard. This is the first time she has put herself first and put her husband second (if you don't count her fascination with the wallpaper). She not only locks him out, but talks to him like he is a child. She's explaining where the key is over and over as if he is a child.  She calls him "young man". She creeps around on the floor giving no crap whatsoever and tells him she's free despite him and "Jane". Some say this is a misprint and should be Jennie, but some say our main character is Jane. She's freed herself from herself in some respects. Is she a little unhinged? No doubt. Humans need stimulation and she was denied that for too long. Is she finally free of caring what John thinks? No doubt about it. She gives no craps about him. She tells him he can't put her back. She pretty much gave him an industrial middle finger by talking to him like he was a child and making him unlock the door so he could find her handiwork. The ending can be seen as both empowering and disturbing. He faints. 

Odd Things To Note

We see that the wallpaper leaves stains on clothes and smells bad. Why is this important? I know it was here for some reason. I did my due diligence. It turns out that Victorian wallpaper could be deadly. We know she and others were touching the wallpaper, including John and Jennie. John got irritable to the point of our main character being a bit scared of him. She and John, and even Jennie (who also gets a bit scared of John) may have inhaled the chemicals of the coloring in the wallpaper. It would explain a lot. Yes, symbolism, is really important in this, but I'd be stupid not to talk about the literal side of it, too. The smell shows up in their clothing. She notes it. Those pretty colors of wallpaper included arsenic in the ingredients list. Oops. 

Now, to be fair, Sheele's Green is technically the color that caused the most harm. The bright yellow also included arsenic and we see that here in the main character's room. It could cause illness due to the arsenic in the wallpaper- particularly in damp rooms. Our main character talks about damp weather and then mentions the smell becoming obvious on everything. Dry wallpaper released flakes into the air and damp wallpaper (like the damp weather described by our main character) released poisonous gas. 

It is also mentioned in the story that the nursery room that became their bedroom was a hot mess and the bed was looking rough. Did the kids react to the wallpaper, the notorious wallpaper that killed many children? The wallpaper had torn over the bed. There was a case of kids licking wallpaper after they tore it down, so it isn't out of the ordinary that they got this beautiful house because of tragedy. Kids wasted away until they died in rooms like this. Our main character felt so weak she only slept and lay down. She does mention that it was strange how they got such a large house so easily and no one wanted it. Did a child die of licking arsenic wallpaper? It's possible. And our main character was weak and ill - for real - so let's not forget that her husband should have listened and taken down the paper. Or better yet, moved them to the room she wanted to sleep in. Novel idea, listening to women. John should have taken note. I'll note that John also gave her lots of tonics, and even they could include arsenic in small doses. Oops again. Did I mention that our main character had a bad feeling about that house, as in maybe sensing the death of the kids in the room? Triple oops. I'm almost sure our main woman will die soon of arsenic poisoning. 

Want more information on toxic wallpaper? Remodeling a house from the 1800s or earlier? Check out this link courtesy of The Smithsonian. I'd take down any gaudy, bright wallpaper if I were you. Or at least get it checked out before you live in the room. 

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I wrote a book! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.

How To Clean Your Bookshelves

 I am a book dragon. I need to go through my bookshelves and make some hard decisions. I have picked up books and don't know if they are my vibe. I've gotten books that are not on my bucket list, only to not read them. Let's talk about great ways to clean your bookshelves as I go through the lengthy process of cleaning mine. 

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Fellow book dragons, we need to take a hard look at our shelves every few years (or months if you are constantly buying or picking up books). It'll be tough, but you'll make it. Here are a few ways to do this. 

I'll talk about three main ways I go through my stash of books, then go into what I found on other methods. Some are reading challenges. Ready?

How I Do It

The first attempts at cleaning out your shelf can be little by little, like doing the read-it-or-unhaul-it challenge. Put your books on an Excel sheet or list (numbered), pick a number using a random generator (or state a number at random yourself), and then read it. If you hate it, it leaves. If you like it, it stays. You weed out the stuff you won't ordinarily pick up by doing this every once in a while. You'll thank yourself for making more space (for books you love). I do three books at a time. You can do anywhere between 1 and however many you want. This makes me think when I pick up a book. If I won't read it I don't pick it up. I don't want a book I dread on my 'unread' Excel sheet. 

The one-shelf challenge is picking one random shelf (whatever method works for you on picking a shelf - your call) and reading as much as you can, from that shelf alone, in a period of time you set for yourself. It might be a month, or a week, or two weeks, or three weeks. whatever you want. The point is to clean out that shelf of books you haven't read yet. 

Do you want a time-consuming, but much needed, clean-up? Here's what I am doing. I determined to make two piles - donate and second chance - while going through every shelf. I put the immediate 'donate' books in a pile first (duplicates, what I know I won't reference...). Then, I went through shelf by shelf putting the 'second chance' books in a pile and reading them to weed out the good from the donatable. I'm blogging my process, but I don't know if I'll be done with this lengthy process by the time this posts. By the end, I'll have more space for books I love and adore. 

How Others Do It

Bibliolifestyle.com suggests laying out all your books on the floor (most likely shelf by shelf in small spaces), sorting them between genres or authors while determining what has sentimental value, and purging your books of what you won't read. Any books with mold need to hit the trash can, but books in good condition can be donated to small bookstores, libraries, and friends. Rare books are worth keeping or selling to small bookstores. 

They suggest the guidelines below:

1. If you haven't read it in 2 or 3 years you probably won't.

2. Don't love it? Then don't keep it. 

3. Won't reread it? Then don't keep it. 

Homes and Gardens suggests organizing all your books in one zone, factoring in how much storage space you have in your home. Another way to organize your books is to put them in categories (author, genre, favorites, kid-friendly, adult-friendly...). Weeding out duplicates is also a great way to clear space for more. While clearing out books and doing the dreaded book purge, it helps to set rules and stick to them. Maybe your rules are not someone else's rules. That is totally okay. It is your shelf to enjoy. Be realistic about what books you wish you read and actually read. Sometimes you pick up a classic because you plan to read it and never find the will to. 

After the dreaded purge, it is highly suggested that you put your true favorites back first and set aside the books you plan to read soon. Think about what you want digitally, as well. Digital files don't take up physical space. When the donate pile is in a bag, out of your footpath, make sure you know where they are going. Make the donate station plan before purging or you'll be tripping over it for months or weeks. 

Margery Bayne talks about weeding books using skills she collected (she's a librarian). The first consideration is how often you pick the series or book up to read it. On the flip side, the other way of asking this question is asking what books you don't want to pick up. The second consideration is whether something is out-of-date (like reference books or books that don't apply to you anymore). Thirdly, what books are you showing off to make yourself look smart? Showing off here means you haven't read it and maybe never will. It isn't the cover art of your favorite book; it is more likely a classic. Fourth, if you feel guilty getting rid of it get rid of it. Fifth, take into account whether something is rare or commonly replaceable and reprinted. Sixth, if it doesn't spark joy it should leave. 

Niki Hawkes proposes a challenge, her "overflowing bookshelf challenge". It is specifically for chronic book-buyers who don't read all their collection. The goal is to read what you have. It can be relaxed, intense, or somewhere between. Three mini-challenges can organize the concept if you don't know where to start. 

1. booking buying ban challenge

You must read 3 (or whatever number you determine) books for every 1 you bring home. There is a page count version (1500 pages per 1 book). 

2. borrowing ban challenge

Same idea as challenge 1, but you read 3 (or a determined number) books or 1500 pages for every 1 book borrowed. 

3. book hoarding challenge

You must get rid of 2 (or a determined number) of books for every book you bring home. 

4. book-end challenge

This is for the ones who have the first of a series all over the shelves. Line them up from longest to shortest owned. Read what you bring home and the oldest books first. 

5. FBR Challenge Masher

Choose any challenge at all and try to do as much of it as possible using only owned books. 

6. Book Pledge challenge

Decide how many books you'll read in a given time frame and track your progress.

Book Riot has advice on weeding books, too. The all-at-once option is setting aside an entire weekend or days of time. Start where the fewest books live and go to the most books location. Sort into the categories below.

1. Never read it      2. liked it, would loan out   3. liked it, no big impression  4. not sure if read

5. haven't read it    6. I have to keep it

Make your stacks, label them, and go from shelf to shelf doing this with no second glances. Put the stacks by the door (except stack 5 and 6). Stacks 5 and 6 go back on the shelves. Maybe keep stack 2 if you feel like it. If you want to try out stack 4 for second chances do so. 

The little-by-little method is not so intensive. Determine where you put the donation pile (where you won't trip on it). Go through shelves every few weeks. If you don't think "They will pry it from my cold, dead hands" put it on the pile. This is also great for maintaining a shelf that you cleaned out.

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Conclusion

Some of us look at our books and want to give things a second chance. How do I know if I don't try it? This is what I'm doing. Read-or-unhaul challenges are great for this concept of book decluttering. You can also be cutthroat about it if you are going through years of books you haven't touched. Your choice on method, your choice on how long it will take. Whether you have no space and need to or you feel your books are not appealing to you anymore, try some of the methods. Feel free to comment what you think about them. Cheers!

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I wrote a book! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.

Sources:

BiblioLifestyle - How To Declutter Books and Organize Your Shelves

How to declutter books: 10 ways to streamline your collection | (homesandgardens.com)

How To Weed Your Books Like A Librarian | by Margery Bayne | A Thousand Lives | Medium

The Overflowing Bookshelf Challenge: How it Works. | The Obsessive Bookseller (nikihawkes.com)

How To Weed Your Bookshelves (bookriot.com)

Good, Quick Reads

 Do you need a few quick books to read? Do you want a good story and only have a week of vacation time to read books? Let's talk about quick reads that are good books. 

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First, we need to establish what "quick" means. Some people could read a large fantasy novel in one day and sitting. I am an avid reader. I can read fast. If you can barely read a 200-page book keep in mind I can read a 400-page book in one day. This measuring stick will help you understand what I call "quick". I'll also say my favorite books are quick reads because I don't stop reading them for more than a bathroom break when I pick them up. Time loses meaning. An hour feels like five minutes. 

I'm defining "quick" reads as books that can be read in two days or less. I'll start with the longest and move toward the shortest. I'm going by page numbers to keep a consistent measurement of length. You'll notice that the numbers are an average and not exact. Every book here is a series or by the same author, and thus, may vary in length.

Your standard of "good" may be different than mine. That is totally okay. I love mysteries, adventures, and romances - usually all mixed together. Keep my preferences in mind as you read down this list. If I don't match yours it is totally okay. We can have different favorites. Everyone has a different genre of choice or favorite author. These just happen to be mine. 

NUMA files and Isaac Bell (400 to 520 pages)

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These series are both by Clive Cussler and a co-author. Now it may only be a co-author. Cussler himself passed away in 2020. Authorship aside, these series include a team of people we follow, with one or two main people we focus on. 

NUMA files is about Kurt Austin and Joe Zavala running missions for NUMA (National Underwater and Marine Agency). His team of people kick butt in an action-adventure series that focuses on water and boating, as well as history and plots to cause major disasters. It's like James Bond combined with experienced sailors. 

Isaac Bell is set in the 1900s and involves a detective agency. We follow everyone but focus on Isaac Bell. It has even more history-mystery to it. It takes historical figures and events, blends them into the whimsical adventure, and still has the same feel as the NUMA files I love. 

Like what you hear? Let me give you a comprehensive list of both series. 

Isaac Bell - Book Series In Order

NUMA Files - Book Series In Order

Jules Verne Novels (430 ish pages)

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These are not new by any means. You've got Around The World In 80 Days, Twenty Thousand Leagues Under The Sea (beware of a thousand fish species names, but otherwise great), and Journey To The Center Of  The Earth as highlights, but there are more. I bought a whole set on a whim. The longest in the set is Twenty Thousand Leagues Under The Sea and the rest are much shorter. Easy reads and a fun adventure for all ages. Aside from way too many genus and species of fish (and I do mean far too many) this man's books read like great travel journals. The Storyline is mostly a few characters going on a journey of some form. Something unexpected happens. Generally, it ends well. 

If this sounds like a fun time, check out the link below to get the whole list of his books. I only have a set of five. I think they'd take up a full two shelves or three to have all his works. 

Order of Jules Verne Books - OrderOfBooks.com

In Death Series by JD Robb (around 400 pages)

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The In Death series is by JD Robb (Nora Roberts) about a female police detective (Eve Dallas) in a mid-21st century world. It takes place in New York and sometimes off-planet. It is a futuristic world with lots of technology. There is also lots of sex between our main character and the man she marries. I'm telling you now so it isn't a shock when you come upon steamy scenes. Don't read this to your kids. It is also a heinous crime series (think Women's Murder Club with more sex and future tech). You'll see sexual and serial killer crimes over and over again. 

I'll say it again for those who only skimmed that paragraph. If you don't like serial killers, heinous crimes, and sex in your fiction you shouldn't pick this up. It isn't as graphic as some books can get, but all the same, I'd make sure you don't give this to your children on a whim. I am reading this as an adult and it is not meant for children. 

On the other hand, if you like what you heard in that description (no judgment for reading dirty suspense), I have the link to the entire series here. There are a lot. 

In Death - Book Series In Order

Women's Murder Club (400 pages)

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If you would like the book above set in modern times and with slightly less sex, you get Women's Murder Club. Still has sex in it, but a few times less. Lindsay Boxer is a police detective in San Francisco with a lawyer friend, a friend working in the morgue, and a reporter friend. One of her friends is killed off in the third book. Basically, these women maintain friendships and help each other solve the crimes. It is still dealing the heinous crimes. It is not a cozy mystery. 

I'll say the same thing for this book as I did the other; this is not what you hand a small child. I may have read this as a gifted reader in junior high, but that doesn't mean I understood everything. I skipped scenes because of sex, read the book again in adulthood, and realized I skipped serious plot points. Yes, I read this in junior high, but I don't think the target demographic is that age. High school or above are good to read this book in my opinion. It isn't In Death with steamy scenes. Use your own judgment and read it first if you don't quite know who it is meant for. 

You know the drill by now. Here's the link to the series. 

Womens Murder Club - Book Series In Order

Bridgerton Series (400 pages)

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You probably live under a rock if Bridgerton is not a name you know. It's either that or you don't have Netflix. The series on Netflix began as a series of books. There are even spinoffs to the original books because they were so loved. The original series is 8 books. There are 8 kids to marry off, so that makes sense. We get the pleasure of reading about the Bridgerton clan, an established and powerful family with 8 kids. The year is 1812 (from the first book at least) and Mrs. Bridgerton is sending her kids into the world to marry. The best part of the books has to be seeing them in their married life. We don't end with the wedding here - oh no - we show their marital struggles. 

Be aware this is not a clean romance series. Don't expect it to be. While it isn't steamy scenes on every page, it isn't what I'd read to a child. The series vibe is basically what the Netflix series vibe shows. Sex happens. It isn't on every page, but it isn't glossed over in one sentence. 

Assuming you are okay with a few sex scenes and you like seeing characters with real depth in romance novels, here's the link to the entire series - with spinoff titles as a bonus. 

What is the order of the Bridgerton books? - Julia Quinn | Author of Historical Romance Novels

Phillip Marlowe Series (380 pages)

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I've talked about this series before. It is much like the James Bond series, in the way that publishers have continued it through varied authors. Raymond Chandler is not the only author now. He started it, died midbook (Poodle Springs), and it has continued since. Poodle Springs was continued by another author around chapter four and you can't tell. I'm going to link to my overview of Philip Marlowe here.

To put things simply, Philip Marlowe is a noir-era private detective and was written for magazines early on. YouTube has radio broadcasts uploaded. These are legitimate radio dramas that last one hour long (with some parts cut short when compared to the book). If you like Noir-style detectives you'll love Marlowe and his witty, sarcastic comebacks. 

Raymond Chandler's Philip Marlowe Books in Order | Series List (deadgoodbooks.co.uk)

Raymond Chandler - Book Series In Order

James Bond Series (300 pages)

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Do I have to tell you who James Bond is? Do I really? I think you already know. 007 is not an obscure movie series. It is, also, an extremely successful book series. Ian Fleming may have died, but his series on 007 never did. There are modern Bond novels out there. If you start from the beginning of Bond (Fleming) and move outward in time you'll get a good feel for who Bond is and his history. It's worth it.

Let me be plain. Ian Fleming was sexist and it shows in his writing. This was written in the 50s and 60s. You, reader, shouldn't be shocked to see moments that make you cringe. There are terms used then that can't be used now. That applies to every time period and will apply to our current time eventually. Some things age well and some select moments aged like milk. Modern writers dropped the sexism like it was poison. I think I understand why. All the same, seeing the original Bond is worth reading past the sexist moments. 

If you want to experience Bond as the books have written him and compare the movies to the books (not the same), here is the link to the whole series. 

James Bond - Book Series In Order

Agatha Christie Mysteries (240 pages)

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Agatha Christie is considered the queen of suspense. She's amazing and wrote mysteries. Her mysteries are often hard to solve just by reading the book for clues. She died in 1976. There was a point where she faked her disappearance for days and never said what she'd done in that time. She dumped her cheating husband soon after. Some people think she'd gone into some depressive haze because her marriage was going south. 

Agatha aside, her books are brilliant. English mysteries found their standard in her books. Two main characters (each a series of their own) are famous. Hercule Poirot and Miss Marple are the two characters that took off. Poirot was a detective from Belgium who continued because he made her money. She killed him off in the last book so no one could use him. Miss Marple is an elderly woman who solves mysteries by listening to her friends and neighbors, while still gardening despite her knees. Eventually, she just complains about the man who does her gardening for her because she can't do it. 

I'd highly suggest her mysteries if you like BBC TV shows. If you like the David Suchet Poirot or the Miss Marple series pick up the books. They are all great. 

Agatha Christie - Book Series In Order

Phryne Fisher (235 pages)

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A 1920s-era flapper solving mysteries may interest you. Hon. Phryne Fisher is an English woman living in Australia and working as a private detective. She's rich. She has servants and adopted daughters who help her solve her cases. She tends to pick up lost souls and she gives them a home working for her. She tends to sleep around. They call her a vamp in 1920s terms. She isn't a saint, but she's an excellent detective. 

If you wanted to know if this had sex in it, the answer is yes. In comparison to In Death, it is rather glossed over. It's vague. It isn't the focus of the plot. Only one lover actually sticks around for several books. Phryne becomes his concubine (I know, weird, but it is there). 

Phryne Fisher - Book Series In Order

Annie's Unraveled Mysteries (230 pages)

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This is a cozy mystery with some edge to it. Annie's put out some cozy mysteries and this one is focused on a woman who moved to Texas. She's putting out crochet books and making custom projects for work. She blogs and deals with her past trauma of her ex-husband. Kate Stevens stumbles upon several mysteries, including one that makes her a prime suspect (first book). She gets close to a police detective named Peter. I love it. The mysteries themselves have an edge to them. One has Kate being kidnapped. Another has her finding a body under Azalia bushes. It doesn't make it uncozy. It gives suspense lovers a cozy mystery to enjoy. 

Mysteries Unraveled | Annie's Fiction (anniesfiction.com)

Nancy Drew (200 pages)

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Nancy Drew is a teen girl solving mysteries in the town of River Heights and beyond. Her story began around 1930 and hasn't stopped since. They are still writing Nancy Drew mysteries under the name Carolyn Keene. She's been ghost-written for years. The same people published Hardy Boys novels. The two have been tied to each other for years. When you see Nancy, the Hardy boys aren't far behind. 

I could go on forever. The series isn't just one series. It is several by now. It can be found in the children's section or the teen section. All ages can read this series. While that isn't true for everything on my shelf, it is true for my Nancy Drew Collection. 

Nancy Drew is courageous, tenacious, and can do anything. She's what many women wanted to be in 1930 and today. I look up to Nancy as a hero in fiction. 

Nancy Drew - Book Series In Order

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I wrote a book (and I'm told it's a quick read)! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.

Book Review - Argylle by Elly Conway

 After going to a movie with some friends, I picked up Argylle by Elly Conway. It is going to be a series. I am reviewing the book, so whether the movie itself matches the book is irrelevant. 

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We all know movies take liberties, frequent liberties on books. This one is no exception. I'm going to say it now - I loved the movie. It may even connect to The Kingsman. Whether the book does this or not is still irrelevant. I'm reviewing the book for what is in the book. It inspired the movie and not the other way around. The book couldn't have better marketing and the movie did it a massive favor by giving it public acknowledgement. The movie is based on the concept ideas for book four (not released or written) and the second movie that is coming will be based on the first book. 

For the record, the book plot does not match the movie plot. I'm saying it right now so you don't expect the movie to match the book. It is the adventure of Agent Argylle. It does not discuss the author and the author bio is probably what inspired the movie the most. The bio includes a dark photo with no real face to speak of and a vague description saying she wrote it while working as a waitress. Nothing more is written on the author. Rumors fly that it is Taylor Swift, but I don't think that is correct. This may be a Lemony Snicket situation (pen names are more common than you think). While we know who Lemony Snicket is, only time will tell with this author. 

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The Review

This had my attention from the prologue. I couldn't wait to finish it (and not just because I said I'd review it). We start with Aubrey Argylle living a life that is not a secret agent in Thailand. He is giving tours in the mountains and comes upon a DEA helicopter that was shot down. He saves the lives of at least two of them through creative means and later gets visited by someone who is not who they say they are. From there things heat up. He has to leave because he meddled with Thai drug dealer affairs by saving those people in the helicopter. He's invited into intelligence work and takes them up on the offer because he has nothing. 

Another part of the plot is a man named Federov running for Russian politics. He's promised to find the amber room and fixated on some bracelet. In the prologue, his wife is forced to wear it in public despite her distaste for it. He bought it at an auction when the plot goes back a bit - for five million dollars. This whole thing is clearly important. They alternately focus on Federov and the team Argylle is placed in. It is a race to the amber room, for the most part, aside from the search for a traitor amongst Argylle's teammates. 

I will not spoil the ending or the traitor. I will not tell you about the epilogue. You must read it yourself to get that information. I had a blast reading this. I believe you will, too, provided spy novels are your jam. Just so you can get an overview of my reading tastes, most of my collection is suspense, spy thrillers, romances, thrillers in general, romantic suspense, and cozy mysteries. If you like James Bond or Clive Cussler you'll love this. It is like they combined the two (history and spy work). 

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Is It Overhyped?

This is a question I asked before reviewing this. There are two camps for reviews - one being "overhyped" and the other being "5 stars". I give it 5 stars. Ultimately, many might have thought they were "reading" the movie. Don't make that mistake. You are not. This is the first of at least four books. This is three books ahead of the movie you saw in theatres. Keep that in mind when you open this cover and get to reading. The movie is not the book. 

People ask this question because this book is being promoted by a movie. The same question applies to books going viral on TikTok or books that get massive publicity (can't get better than a movie being an ad for your book). Sometimes books are overhyped (Fourth Wing and other examples can be seen by book reviewers on Youtube). Sometimes a book is just that good. In this case, it is just that good. Give it a chance. Pick it up. 

If you would like to try it out, I have provided the Amazon link here for Argylle. Happy reading!

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I wrote a book! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.

Preview of coming attractions

 I realize some of my blog posts are quite random. Some of them are fluff that keeps the blog going while I work on other projects (like reading books to review). Today I'm giving you some blog topics to look forward to in the future. Ready?

Lately, I've been on a book-reviewing kick because it tends to work out well for views. Also, I like the books I'm reading and pick them myself. I will take suggestions for book reviews if you have any, though. At this time (I don't know when) I plan to review Alice In Wonderland and Jane Eyre. They are toward the end of my TBR and I'm not rushing to get there. I intend to enjoy the books I read. When I get there the review will show up. 

I also wanted to explain my process when it comes to reviewing books. Between both works, my hobbies, my novel writing, and life in general I do still have time to read. But I still have to keep in mind the size of the book and how much time I have to play with that day. I try to get the book finished quickly when I'm using it for blog content, though. Even so, it does take some time. 

Read-it-or-unhaul-it challenges are easier. Why? Because I expect to not finish some of the books. This challenge brings the free romances I impulsively downloaded into full view. What I picked up at a library sale and abandoned shows up in the unread options. I have no qualms with DNFing (Do Not Finish) a book while reading for this challenge. It is more than possible at least one will be a dud or leave my library for being only okay. 

I may or may not be going through my shelves because I am a book dragon who needs more space. That's right, I need help from more than the read-it-or-unhaul-it challenge. I can't find space for some of my books. I was inspired by the one shelf challenge from Emily Fox. If I decide to do this, it will show up on my blog. I may even show a before-and-after photo of my shelves. It'll be a shelf-by-shelf process. I intend to try out books before I donate them (unless they are, for real, unwanted). Should I decide to undertake this time-consuming task you'll see the before and after. 

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Bottom Line

Long story short, I intend to review two more books, do multiple read-it-or-unhaul-it challenges, and clean my bookshelves. If you have suggestions for books you want my review of, put them in the comments section for me to see. Cheers!

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I wrote a book! I am delighted to say that I have 5 five-star reviews up on Amazon now, which is amazing. I hope you like it, too. If you're interested in buying a paperback, hardcover, or ebook version go to my website link in this blog or click here to go straight to my Amazon page. 

Jack Thomas is running from a past case. He's hiding in Wrenville. Is his past case catching up with him? 

Find out in my first book, Wrenville, a stand-alone suspense novel.