Women Distrusting Women - Why It Happens

 Why do women distrust women? Why do we feel the need to spend time with men and their straightforward communication instead? Let's dive into that deep topic and look at the research. 

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I need to give you background on my own experiences before we go on. I was bullied in first grade by a girl who ended up bullying our entire classroom. I'm pretty sure this girl would have bullied me earlier if the kindergarten teacher hadn't been so wonderfully vigilant. I don't remember some of my first grade year. My brain blocked it out. When I took a gender class at Malone University I got some of those memories to trigger on accident. One of those memories was this specific girl telling me I wasn't a girl. 

Fast forward through elementary school and into junior high years and I trusted practically no one, after I had been talked about behind my back. By high school, I could ignore rumors like it was an art form. Frankly, I no longer cared what anyone thought of me. This shocked some people. I'm sad to say that women seemed to be participating in more of the gossip than men, at least in my perceptions. 

Something you'll notice about me is that I have more male friends than female friends. Why? Because women have stabbed me in the back far more than men have (although I will say men can be just as destructive). It has taken into adulthood to trust other women again. If you know or were a part of any situation I have discussed above, I am not here to bash you. I hope you have grown into a beautiful human being and have a wonderful day. I am here to talk about my research into why women distrust women. In that same gender class at Malone, I found out that I am not the only one to feel this way. Let's look at what I found. 

The Research

Gender Policing

First, we need to talk about a concept called "gender policing" and no, I'm not talking about women's struggle to become police officers, though that does happen. Social groups have spoken and unspoken social rules, which include how women should and shouldn't behave. Women will ridicule those that don't fit (which I have seen with my own eyes when another classmate got invited to a party and got left in a closet crying). The classmate I just referenced also got pushed to the social fringes like a social deviant. A social deviant is someone who doesn't fit. This girl didn't fit in. I didn't fit in among other women either, but I've commonly been stuck between the social fringes and being well-liked. Put plainly, those that don't behave like the rest of the group and obey social rules will be left out of the group, and even treated badly in some cases. This is gender policing in a nutshell. Men also deal with this crapola. It just looks more aggressive in men. Many insults have to do with someone being too feminine or too masculine (usually being too masculine in the case of females). We are taught from the beginning that it is important we are liked. 

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Gender policing also pressures us into specific behaviors, such as caring more about appearances and not talking about some topics out loud. We learn how to behave from our peers and their reactions, as well as family experiences. I have always been a tomboy. I learned to care more about my appearance because of the influences around me. I am aware that when a woman doesn't dress like the rest of the group wants her to that they will try to pressure her into doing so. Many times I have felt like I was looking through a glass window at the women around me as they didn't include me. It took me until college to truly find my small tribe of female friends that will actively include me in their lives. I did find female friends here and there in my early years, but I can't say that I found a full tribe of them until my twenties. I believe that this had something to do with gender policing, which is a subconscious process oftentimes. Popularity is a major thing from the ages of elementary school to somewhat into college (though I'll say it didn't quite make as much difference in friendships by then). Not shockingly, popular people do more of the gender policing or get shielded from it because of their high social status.

Why Women Get Nasty

Some of the reason women can get nasty includes projecting their own insecurities on others. You have something they want and they can't compete? That's a reason to go after you. They are trying to tear you down to raise themselves higher. In some cases, however, it is because they can get away with it or they seriously lack social skills. Control and power still top the list of reasons why. 

Jealousy is more than enough reason to go after another woman. It is possible that many of us women have done it to each other more often than we think. It is true that we compete for male attention. In connection to being taught to be well-liked, this means that aggression is more under the table than to your face. Women everywhere can write names on the knives sticking out of their backs. If I am perceived as a threat I can be targeted by a female bully. It is all about the competition (for men or anything else). Specific women at workplaces have made people quit or get investigated by others while throwing their knives incognito. I experienced this at one point at my evening job and was lucky enough to have a boss that cared and believed that I did my job. 

This quote from the Huffpost says some of it plain as day. 

"Now fathom this: In a culture where patriarchy is still alive, endearingly belting out delusions of grandeur, thrusting a withered cane into the air from its convalescent bed, dinging the bell for the nurse, at least one crippled mythology has remained -- the story that women are not fully worthwhile unless they are amazing at everything AND beautiful in the eyes of others. For some, external beauty in the eyes of others and oneself is success in and of itself."

According to this quote we still all want to be the fairest of them all, unless of course we no longer care what society says and choose to ignore its ideals. I'm pretty sure that as an introverted hermit crab I go in the latter category, but I can't say that I don't care how I look. This quote explains why the beauty section of any store is so large. I'm sad to say it isn't wrong. Fear leads a few of us to attack others to get what they have. Another quote from Huffpost says it comically well. 

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"So when an attractive woman strolls around your workplace, if she is prettier in your eyes than you are -- or in someone else's eyes -- she might inspire your jealousy. And if you're that kind of woman, even if only for the day, you might treat her differently. She might as well be parading a better resume in front of you. Look at me, I can get a better man, a better job, a better wardrobe... a better life. In a world of squirrels, she might as well have been the squirrel who collected more nuts than you. You might even try to steal her nuts. Or tell the other squirrels how she came about those nuts in a suspicious way. Either way, this squirrel is perceived to have more resources than you, even if some of those nuts are spoiled. Then again, how would you know what kind of nuts she has? All you can see is her pile of nuts. And that's all that matters. Perhaps you should take notes from this fabulous squirrel, maybe even do laps around the tree to get that squirrel's thighs. Perhaps you should kill the fabulous squirrel. You just don't know what to do! Now imagine that you are the beautiful squirrel with the pile of nuts. Now you're getting a little anxious. Now you feel like you should give some away to diminish the danger or perhaps alternatively guard your nuts more fiercely. You just don't know what to do! But why should you give away your nuts? They didn't climb that tree to yank them from the branches. Perhaps they don't have your scampering ability. Perhaps the tree liked you better. Either way, they're your damn nuts, you shouldn't have to make excuses."

If you didn't quite get it or that quote is far too long to take in, it boils down to jealousy. 

Who Gets To Wear The Target

Ladies (and possibly gentlemen) reading this have already put together that the one with the biggest pile of acorns is usually the one getting attacked. It's like the mean girls edition of hunger games. I'm sure some people would pay to see that mash-up of films, but I would not. I have had enough drama in my life without the threat of death attached to it. 

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According to the list I found online from Pairedlife.com, having the most acorns can include the following:

1. Beauty    2. Brains   3. Strong work ethic                        4. social deviant   5. confidence   6. fashion sense  

7. thin body    8. strong personality   9. competitive nature  10. wealth and money

The more you have, the more targets you have on your back. If you have any of these, you have at least one. Beauty, in this case, doesn't have to be perceived by you. Should anyone see you as competition because you are pretty they might let their claws come out, even if you have no idea why those claws came out. 

How To Deal With The Claws

Is it your fault their claws came out and you didn't see it coming? No, not unless you attacked them first. Assuming those verbal claws came out of left field and you didn't stab them earlier, compliments go a long way. Being nice goes a long way.  Respect is key. When being nice doesn't make a difference, go somewhere else and avoid those knives by distancing yourself. 

Another aspect of insecurities includes your mind. Maybe keep it light on the conversational side of things until you know who you are talking to. Like minds will not fear you. Try not to be a know-it-all or boast about things and you'll be fine. Again, distance yourself if those claws don't retract. 

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Gossip is something you want to steer clear of. If they talk badly about everyone else, you're next. It is safer to keep a stiff arm between you and someone who is a malicious gossip. When the gossip disappears around you, you'll know that you stepped out of a friendship circle that was toxic. 

Long story short, be respectful and kind. Flee when you find out that the knives will not stop coming. Find your tribe. Don't try to fit in where you are clearly not wanted or you'll be abused. That's called simping. It doesn't end well. 

Try not to let these women rattle you (especially dealing with adults). Don't let them see it, at the very least. Understand you can't control their behavior, but you can control yours. It is an option to walk away (as long as you don't have to work with them in the same room). As hard as this is, stand up for yourself and set those clear boundaries. Keep working. Disengage from the conversation. Workplace aggression should be reported. In the meantime, manage your stress in whatever way works for you (journaling, counseling, breathing calmly...). 

Why Women Bullying Is Different Than Men Bullying

Women bully psychologically. They go after what you have and tear you down in order to gain power over you, and sometimes control you after the fact. This is relational bullying. Cyberbullying, gossip, harassment, intimidation, ostracization, and verbal insults all come with this territory. The sad thing about women bullies is that other women may join in as a means of self-preservation in an effort to avoid the same attack. Be aware that standing up for others opens you up to these same attacks (something I learned many times over). All those nasty comments and false rumors can be unleashed on you in return. Your secrets can also be released to the entire classroom. 

In first grade I couldn't possibly communicate that I was being bullied. I learned later on about the whole classroom being bullied. I wasn't alone, but I sure thought I was. Stand up for others, blog readers. Don't stand by and let it all happen in front of you. Go get help if you don't know what to do. Report it, anonymously or not. Don't let anyone get away with tearing down and ripping apart the self-esteem of another human being. 

Most scenarios include deep insecurities, which are then suppressed by making another person miserable and worse off than the bully. Weak people and competition are the first targets. The social drama begins here. Screaming and emotional scenes, threats, making a job harder to do, creating a clique that follows only the bully's rules, and so forth may happen. Workplaces that have limited opportunities breed this because every woman is competition. Other women become collateral damage.

It requires talking to management to deal with all that. 

If you need another example take a look at the book/movie "The Help". It involves both race and female bullying as these women try to make a living in the south. The key word here is status. In most cases the bully is trying to pull herself up the ladder with no heed to who she shoves off of it. You'll notice that many movies end in the bully losing the game. This is because a lot of people have been bullied and want justice.

A Word For Parents With Daughters

Don't overreact to this situation. I know, in my mother's case, that she tried to talk to the teacher when she noticed I no longer liked school in first grade. The teacher that year was so distracted by personal problems that she didn't even see any of it happen and didn't listen to me try to tell her. Overreacting might make it worse in some cases. Be there. Just be there. Listen if they are old enough to talk to you about it. If they speak of the situation try to help them problem solve solutions. Ask questions. 

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Angry? Yes, you should be. Girls are brutal. It took years (tail end of college) to trust women ever again. Some of them never grow up and keep doing this to their "friends". Believe me, you can be angry. Most of all, let your child release their emotions to you. Help them let it out. Be a sounding board. Deal with your own anger, while you are at it. Do what you need to in order to release it. 

Encourage them to find new friends and get to know more people around them. This includes teachers like my mother who will let them sit in her classroom and avoid the bullies. Encourage social life outside of the school (especially if the mob mentality has begun and she's being shunned). Give her outlets to make her social circle bigger and grow her confidence. Let her figure this out in her time, as frustrating as it is, to make sure she learns who is a friend and who isn't (with your guidance, of course).

Let the school know immediately if a property has been destroyed, there is a threat of harm, or a physical assault happens. Contact the school and law enforcement at that point. You have no choice. Be clear and specific when you describe the incident. No matter what, tell the school what is going on. Teachers can be on alert for the situation from there. Tell your daughter you are talking to the school before you do it. If she says she can handle it, let her. Should she need help and not want it known, do it discreetly. 

What schools can do is talk to specific classrooms, which will spotlight those that thought they could fly under the radar (rumor mongers hate this). If a bully is protected by someone, go higher up the food chain. Principals and school boards are good places to go if that is the case. Status may protect some community members. Wising up the head of organization by saying something may reveal more bullying in the administration.

This was a heavy topic. Here, have Mean Girls quote that had me laughing hysterically. 

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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/working-btches/201308/why-are-some-women-nasty-other-women#:~:text=Essentially%2C%20there%20are%20three%20main,of%20self%2Desteem%20and%20confidence.

https://www.marketwatch.com/story/why-women-are-meaner-to-each-other-than-men-are-to-women-2018-03-05

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The balanced game challenge

Video games that have overpowered weapons, puzzles that are too hard, no challenge level, or cause a specific race or player type to die or win too often are unbalanced. This makes gameplay frustrating. Today I'm taking a look at how this can be avoided by game designers. 

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Video game design starts with a core mechanic and then gets balanced out. An unbalanced game is not an enjoyable experience. Two-player games are balanced when no one has an unfair advantage. Single-player games deal with whether the challenge is correct for the audience. The best games have challenge and balance. The best game designers know who they are aiming at, whether they are aiming at the competitive gamers or the average population. 

Single Player

When games get harder as you play that is because they know your skills rise as you play the game. They need the pacing to match your challenge level. When the challenge level matches the age range you are aiming for they call that balanced. This is why games take time to come out after they have been playtested. If only a few testers are available they aim for the middle ground.

Making a game too hard or too easy is always an issue. You have to know your audience's age and gaming level. You can even add a level choice like Herinteractive does. Portal, for example, comes with no instructions other than the pictures and the robotic voice that awakens you. This is aimed at adults. Nancy Drew games sometimes have Nancy herself state the obvious or what you need to do next as if she is talking to herself, thus we can assume the game is aimed at younger players or accommodates for the younger players.

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In this case, it has to do with a balance of choices. Objects should all have uses. If one thing you read about in the game never happens it doesn't need to be in the game at all. Situational knowledge without the situation is useless. Basically, the ability to choose what tools to use should end in using them at least once in one or two situations. Other than that, balance is less of an issue in single-player games. 

In mystery games what I find is that the balance of puzzles and dialogue is often discussed among us players. At the end of the day, however, we all like different puzzles, different plot depth, and different amounts of necessary dialogue. It is hard to please everyone. You can't. 

Asymmetric Games

When a game has multiple starting and ending points you have an asymmetric game. This means resources and starting points are not going to be entirely equal. Games where one player begins are asymmetrical. Some games unbalance it on purpose, but if you don't intend to do that it is best to balance an asymmetric game. Symmetric games are when players begin on even ground. 

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Playtesting is harder to do in this category, but what can be done is making sure resources can be shared amongst players or that two resources are worth the same thing. This can't always be done. Sometimes different rules apply to different groups. There are different and conflicting goals, as well, so extensive playtesting is needed on these games. It can't be impossible for one side and easy for the other. 

Strategy also has a place here. One strategy can be better or worse than another. Balance is having different strategies that are powerful and leaving the strategies ignored by playtesters out. Trading card games need a balanced system, where something can be countered. The same goes for weaponry and money-making in games. When all this is balanced out battles are more fun to play and farms are more fun to make a profit from.  

The two basic goals related to game objects boil down to not making the object too weak and not making it too powerful. Adding drawbacks to a certain object or benefits to that same object is one way this is achieved. There has to be some challenge or players will get bored. On the other hand, it can't be too hard to play and end in rage-quitting. When given the choice of making a weapon too powerful or too weak the game developers may choose weakness so a player can't dominate everyone else. Through math and formulas game creators work out if the cost is equaled out. Excel sheets are good ways to do this. 

Rock-paper-scissors is a good way to explain how some games balance out. Element A beats Element B, Element C beats Element A, and Element B beats Element C. When a player chooses to be an archer, for example, they get benefits that a foot soldier doesn't get. When I choose a river farm in Stardew Valley I lose land to plant crops and gain a fishing spot. My husband chose a forest farm, so he gains more hardwood in the long run. They are different and have different advantages. To make a long story short, your choices have a counter to them. In battles this is vital. Stardew is not a battle situation, but it does affect your farming focus all the same. 

Why Games Get Updates

Speaking of Stardew Valley, developers can tweak games after release. "Nerfing" or lowering the power of a weapon is one thing a designer may do, as well as adding elements and taking out objects that no one seems to even use. Stardew Valley has had many updates and fixed many bugs that players used to exploit. Not that it stops people from breaking into game code or modding the game (it hasn't), but it does reflect that game designers pay attention to mods that come out and videos that show you how to exploit bugs in the game. Multiple players post these online. Developers are watching for this.

When players say something is OP (Overpowered) they do care. If one type of player is constantly winning or constantly losing it is a major problem that needs to be addressed. Also, if no one is using a specific object at all for a long period of time it may be unnecessary. Unnecessary game objects disappear and OP objects get downsides added. OP strategies may also get the same treatment as the OP objects connected to them. 

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Adding objects, maps, or characters can also happen in updates. Stardew used to only have the standard farm and now we have many farms to choose from. Many mods were added to the original game after they became popular. Looking at the list of mods online will tell you that directly. Videogame designers do care about what we like and think, so don't be afraid to give review feedback on what you'd like to see. 

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Single Player Game Balance – Celia Alexis Wagar's CritPoints

Mermaids and Sea Monsters

 What did sailors and pirates truly see when they told tales of sea monsters and mermaids? Were they manatees or dolphins? Are there sea dinosaurs that survived the flood? Let's dive into that. 

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This is a fake mermaid.

Today we discuss what the sailors actually witnessed when they claimed to see mermaids, as well as what sea monsters could be or truly are. I'm going to go into the mythology first (in both categories) and then research what they could be. Ready to set sail? I know I am. 

Mythology and Mermaids

Myths tell tales of sirens and giant sea monsters. Both are bad news. You have the possibility of either shipwrecking, drowning, or being eaten. Sirens are shown holding human skulls. They didn't pull those out of the sea at random. I'll let you put the pieces together on that one. While that was not every mermaid you found, you'd better keep wax to put in your ears anyway- just in case! Many gods and goddesses also had a tailed form and could be found at sea. 

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A Dungong - a sea cow

Merpeople are indeed both genders and both dangerous and friendly. Sirens are the dangerous variety. By singing alone a siren can control sailors, causing them to crash ships into rocks. Some had wings and were cursed to be demons because they failed to prevent Persephone's abduction. After the crash, they would allegedly eat the sailors, which is where that human skull came from. Sightings of these creatures are indeed attributed to manatees (sea cows, essentially) who could look similar to fat merpeople if you didn't see enough of their face. Dolphins or Dungong are also possibilities.

Persian and Irish myths paint mermaids in a new light, claiming they can use legs or fins and be on both land (for a short time) and the sea. This is more like Ariel. They are shy, mystical, and good. They are curious about life on land. In this case, whether they are good or bad depends on your culture. Lots of tragic storms fed the evil interpretation of mermaids. It is likely that mermaids had nothing to do with many sailors' deaths; it is far more likely that bad weather conditions doomed the sailors to shipwreck and the sharks got a good meal. 

Mythology and Sea Monsters

There are many monsters in mythology, countless in fact. They are almost always bad news. Mermaids varied, but not sea monsters. Do you want to hear about the world's largest mythical sea horse? His name is Jormungand. He's known for being wrapped around the world and holding his tail in his mouth. Ragnorak (apocalypse) will begin if he lets go of his tail, according to legend. He's Loki's child. Cthulu is another big name and he's from space. There is a writer who loves to talk about him. He's a humanoid squid with dragon wings. The Kraken is well known by anyone who's paid attention in literature classes and terrorizes sailors. It was probably just a giant squid in real life. A dogfish is referenced in Pinnochio. A sea bishop was found and given to a king, asked to be let go, made the sign of the cross, and went on its way. This is the only exception. Need I go on listing famous and known sea legends? I think you get my point. It's shockingly common. Maps with sea monsters on them marked unknown territory or dangerous seas. 

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Kraken

Did I miss Leviathan? No, I just don't count biblical references as mythological. Besides, Leviathan sounds more like a poetic metaphor for end times than anything else. Only God knows if that is a real monster or not and I don't know if I want to know. It's not like Nessy or other references that have sightings. 

Back to the rest of the references, we find they are all from different cultures. One might just be fictional literature. At this point, I am convinced that bad weather is also to blame for this category of monster. Mythology often tried to explain the unexplained. Horrible waves and bad storms factor into that perfectly. Sirens and Sea Monsters are often put in the same category. There are also weird fish that are huge. Big squids, misidentified whales, misidentified sharks, and dinosaurs that could have survived the flood may be a believable explanation for the sightings that have come up. 

What Are They Really?

Mermaids

Much like Bigfoot, there are "sightings" and people who chase this legend around. The world is not Gravity Falls, yet conspiracy theory abounds (and I'm guilty of finding it fascinating, whether it is real or fake). In the case of mermaids, the answer is no. You won't find merpeople in your lake anytime soon. Like I said before, manatees and other creatures are mistaken for merpeople quite often. Weirdly, there are still reported sightings. PT Barnum faked one by putting a monkey body on a fish tale, and then made people pay to see it. It was faked quite often, even at the World's Fair. Women swam in a fish tank and people paid to watch the performance (probably knowing it was fake).

Sightings? Yes, I said sightings. In AD 77 scaled bodies were found washed up on beaches. The Romans found them. Later evidence suggested they were seals. Christopher Columbus claimed to see masculine-featured mermaids. The area he was in was common to manatees and scientists think he saw those. Henry Hudson thought he saw one in the arctic ocean. A book about his adventures (written by his uncle) was thought to have been embellished to include that. In other words, it was a tall tale. Blackbeard saw one, too, and he was known for bending the truth to control his crew. He used the excuse to go to the Indies and steer his crew away from an area. In 1730 China had two encounters - one with fine multicolored hair and the other with webbed feet and hands. Both were rescued and went back to the sea (one left after her rescuer had died). It was thought that it was an encounter with a sea mammal of some sort. 

Do you want more modern sightings? Okay, I'll tell you about those. 1880s Canada held a tale of three men and a native guide. The tourists thought they saw a dark-skinned woman with blonde hair rise out of the water and stare at them. The guide quit soon after because mermaids were bad luck and led to death. Pennsylvania in 1881 tells a tale of a man who saw a black-haired mermaid in the Susquehanna River tributary (Dugan's Run). She's allegedly there in the early morning or late evening and only goes up to her shoulders in the water. Henry Loucks, who found her, was trying to lure her out of her cave home. Loucks almost shot her, then considered that he didn't want to be tried for murder. The Kei Islands tale wasn't truly investigated, so this one is a mystery still. In 1943 Japanese soldiers reported mermaids, then one decided to make threatening (gurgling and burping) noises at them. Naturally, instead of leaving it alone, the village was ordered to kill the one that "attacked" them. The creature had spikes on its head, a human face and limbs, and a fish-like mouth. It was delivered to the Japanese soldiers dead. Again, not been investigated, so we don't know. Victoria, Canada in 1967 tells a tale of a blonde, oblivious mermaid with a porpoise tale eating raw salmon by a tour boat. Pictures of the incident could not be traced. No one, even at the price of 25,000 dollars, could capture her. In Hawaii, 1998, divers reported a naked woman with a fish tale swimming with dolphins. The one diver saw it again and claims to have photographic proof. 

The mermaid sighting in Hawaii 1998
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Want more modern? Let's talk about 2009 Israel. There was a young mermaid reported in Haifa Bay by many people. No one has yet claimed the one million dollar reward for proving her existence. Zimbabwe in 2012 was a case where workers installing water pumps claimed to be chased off by mermaids. An exorcist came in to help, yet they couldn't resume work. Dams are unfinished to this day because they feared the mermaids would capture and drag them off. The workers refused to go back to work. 

Sea Monsters

Sea monsters, much like mermaids, have sightings reported. Also, they might be dinosaurs. When earth flooded in the great flood I'd bet some lived (including sharks). Sharks are dinosaurs. Loch Ness is home to Nessy, allegedly, and she might be one (if she's real). Again, though, we do have to understand that God put so many fish in the sea that we haven't found them all. We never will, given the water pressure. Misidentifying unknown animals is the most logical explanation for sea monsters. Whales, sharks, and other huge fish tend to be a bit intimidating and sailors are kind of in their way, thus it makes sense they'd be less than happy. We're also small in comparison and we're scared. Sailors also might have been drunk at times or telling big fish stories. Dead fish washing up on beaches, unidentified at the time, were considered monsters. 

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That being said, let's talk sightings. The Kraken was described as a monstrous fish. It looked like a mix of fish and squid. It was a giant squid. One washed up one day and it was identified by science. 150-200 feet is indeed a monstrous size of fish. The Hydra (Hercules killed it) was said to actually be an octopus because it can regrow limbs, as well as tentacles possibly being mistaken for heads. It was hardly as threatening as they thought and we now know what it is. The Oarfish is not a common viewing pleasure, but it does explain the trope about a long sea serpent. It is the longest bony fish currently living, 45-50 feet long, and has spines running up and down its back. It is what we often think of as a sea monster. When washed onto shore it is likely to be seen as one. 

I could go on about misidentified whales and species for a while. That is essentially what has happened. God didn't hand Adam a guidebook to pass on for generations. The extent of the animals on earth is not known. We can't cross off animals on our guidebooks and go "oh, we found the mighty fluferbat and now we can make a new discovery!" Nope, we instead get scared of what washes up on shore, despite the fact it could be harmless and just not be common knowledge. Sea monsters are and aren't real. We can prove that someone found something; we just don't know what they found until we study it. It sometimes turns out to be less than monstrous.

Conclusion

It comes down to the fear of the unknown. Most of us don't know what is in the ocean. The oceans hold freaky creatures that can kill you or be completely harmless. Sailors way back when knew even less. The seas were new to them. Can you blame them for encountering a new animal bigger than them and getting scared for their lives? The sea, like the jungle, can actively try to kill you. 

I'll say this about mermaids, though - why are there sightings in the 2000s? The world may never know. Science can't show us evidence of these merpeople at this time. What I don't understand is why people in 2012 claim to have seen mermaids. It boggles my mind. The science answer for mermaids is no, however, so I'm going to put them in the same category as unicorns and possibly Bigfoot - unproven. I'll let you come to your own conclusions. 

Sources:

Are Mermaids Real? 12 Mermaid Sightings in History - Dutch Shark Society

Are Mermaids Real? (And Do They Exist?) (fictionhorizon.com)

Mermaid Legends - Myths about Mermaids and Sirens (realmermaids.net)

10 Incredible Sea Monsters from Mythology | Ocean Info

Five “Real” Sea Monsters Brought to Life by Early Naturalists | Science| Smithsonian Magazine

The Call of the Void

Ever wonder what would happen if you hurled yourself off a high hiking trail, then logic kicked in and said "please don't"? You aren't alone. You've felt the call of the void, or in french "L'appel du vide".

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The call of the void is the urge to do something with high risk. It is a High Place Phenomenon (HPP) and is often felt by many at high places. Urges include swerving into traffic, cutting yourself with a nearby knife or one you are holding, jumping into deep water from a boat or bridge, putting metal into electrical sockets, sticking your hand into a food or garbage disposal, or standing in front of a train. Two seconds later you tell yourself "what is wrong with me? I shouldn't do that!". It is unnerving nonetheless. It is shockingly common to experience this. Half the people who experience this don't have suicidal thoughts, three-quarters of the people have suicidal thoughts, and people who have anxiety but not suicidal thoughts tend to experience HPP.

Why?

The brain, as many have found, has a survival instinct that will tell you not to do something, which is what kicks in or should when the call of the void comes to you. You have a higher sensitivity to internal cues if you experience this. I'll let healthline.com say it best.

"This signal happens quickly, and you instinctively back up, perhaps without realizing why. Then, when you think about what happened, you might mistakenly assume the safety warning was actually a desire to jump (or stick your hand in the fire)."

Anxiety or those that fear anxiety symptoms will be more prone to this. Some have also come to the conclusion it has something to do with a tendency to gamble. I'll let  Adam Anderson say it best. 

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"As illogical as it may sound, if someone has a fear of heights their instinct is to gamble against it by jumping from that high place. Future gain is not as immediate as avoiding present danger. Fear of heights and fear of death are not so connected. Fear of death holds an emotional distance that other, less abstract fears don’t. Therefore, jumping solves the fear of heights immediately. Then you’re confronted with the fear of death problem. (Which may wind up not being a problem if you die.)"

Jean-Paul Sartre, a french philosopher, says it is “a moment of Existentialist truth about the human freedom to choose to live or die.” Basically, you realize you have the freedom to choose to live or die. Humans also tend to sabotage themselves. There is no fool-proof scientific explanation, so this is still a mystery. Surprisingly, though, it is normal.

When To Get Worried

These alone do not mean anything, especially if they cause no lasting distress and you never act on them. Your reaction is an indicator of how at-risk you are of actually harming yourself. However, symptoms of depression and anxiety are not something to fool around with. If you relate to anything listed below you might want to see someone about it.

"frequent worries

hopelessness

trouble concentrating

sudden or rapid mood changes

sleeplessness or difficulty getting out of bed

feelings of doom

persistent loneliness"

(Courtesy of Healthline)

Intrusive thoughts also reflect mental illness, thus it may benefit you to talk about those with a professional. It happens with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). If they are constant, causing you distress, keep you from doing what you want, and you need to do a particular behavior to relieve them it is definitely concerning. 

Rule of thumb, if you actually consider acting on the call of the void and you experience anything indicating a disorder get help. 

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Sources:

 Call of the Void: High-Place Phenomenon FAQs (healthline.com)

Call Of The Void: Why We Think We Could Just Jump, But Don't (allthatsinteresting.com) 

What is the 'call of the void'? | Live Science

Book Etiquette 101

 Are there common courtesies that should apply to everyone who reads? Absolutely. Class is in session. 

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Have you ever been constantly interrupted by someone attempting conversation - while your book is obviously open in your hand and your eyes are on the pages? Me too. That is why today's blog topic is immediately relevant to every reader. I will be going through all the reading etiquette that everyone on planet earth should know and understand.

Book Open - Mouth Shut

The cardinal rule of reading is that when the book is open no one should be trying to converse with you. Unless tea or dinner is ready, it is time to clock in, or the house is on fire all humans near you should respect your reading time. Do you know how hard it is to read in the work break room, or near a coworker who has decided your book doesn't have your attention? If so, you understand why this is at the top of our list. As much as I enjoy social time with others, we should all be aware that an open book means someone's time is already occupied. 

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I do know that some humans won't ever understand this, which is why I'm also devoting this section to avoiding such misunderstandings. If you can find a room alone (library, at home, coffee shop.....) that is an ideal place to read. Situations that don't allow this also have the option of noise-canceling headphones, earbuds with background music going, and any other type of headphones that communicate you are not open to conversation. Even then, kids won't understand that a book can hold your attention just as well as a toy holds theirs, so you may need to resort to reading during nap time or while the kids are not home (with grandparents, school, with aunts...). 

Another aspect to take into account is who is in the room with you. If you know for a verified fact that person A will be busy on their phone, you can likely pull out a book with no worries. However, if person B walks in and is obviously feeling chatty you might want to finish your page and bookmark, then find a new place to sit. Or wait until they leave. Either way, keep an eye on who seems to leave you to your book and who doesn't understand your book has your attention. It can help you know when spaces are safe to read in or not. Also, never read in unsafe spaces and never wear headphones in public places (unless you know you are safe).

Spoilers!

When you are experiencing a book and don't want to spoil any plot points you should avoid reading reviews that aren't labeled as spoiler-free. Etiquette here is to not blurt out who dies in the book (unless you are told it is okay). If you are discussing a book and don't know someone is in the middle of the plot you are forgiven. You cannot read the minds of your companions. However, seeing someone reading an Agatha Christie and blurting out the culprit ungracefully and loudly is never okay. Long story short, mystery and suspense endings are not what you discuss out loud until everyone has finished the book. 

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Plot spoilers are not wanted. Comic, graphic novel, book, novel, or novella matter not; we don't need to go ruining plot twists for readers reading a novel for the first time. If you want to discuss the endings and plot twists of books online it is wise to say from the get-go that your post includes spoilers (which most facebook groups police politely anyways). In person you should ask how far they are in the book, so you don't let loose the biggest plot twist of the series on accident. Book clubs are safe places to discuss such things, as your book club group should be on the same page literally and figuratively. If someone fails to read the novel it is their fault and most book clubs talk about the novel after everyone has read it. 

Return Library Books Undamaged

Is this one because my mom is a librarian? Yes, it is. In fact, this is also because lots of people bring back damaged anything to the library and sometimes can't get CDs and PC games to work on computers because of damage (cough cough, my childhood and why we bought Nancy Drew games, cough cough). Take care of the book you borrowed. Don't leave it where your sibling can get mud on it, drop it in a puddle without drying it out, or use it as a coaster. The best way to return your library book is in the state you borrowed it. 

There are book sleeves - physical fabric sleeves - that can assist you with this, especially if you are reading a book on the go or in a kitchen. They have a variety of sizes and you can make your own in whatever fabric you desire to use. I have two that can hold an average size book. One can button closed. This is also ideal for taking your e-readers with you. Try it sometime and see how it works out. A protected book will be more likely to return without water or other varieties of damage. 

Dog-earing pages is not right, either. Take a piece of scrap paper and put it in the book instead of bending corners back to mark your place. These book pages are not as forgiving as you think they are. You return the pages dog-eared and they are never the same again. Libraries put bookmarks out for you to take, so take them and use them. 

Don't Judge Us For Emotional Responses 

Avid readers know that a character dying in a book can cause physical tears. Coming upon a steamy scene in your Bridgerton novel may make you not want to look your male coworkers in the eye for a bit. One character's action may make us want to throw the book across the room and scream in anger. My point? Books cause an emotional response in many of us. Please understand that venting about a fictional character is normal for us. There are multiple characters, including Draco Malfoy, that I'd like to punch in the face through the book for being a serious jerk.

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I know some people don't get this. They think "it's just a book" or we have confused reality and fantasy. We have not. We connected with the fictional character, but we do know the difference. That doesn't mean reading a scene where someone committed suicide, died in battle, or got betrayed isn't going to cause us emotional damage. I can give you three characters - at least - that I cried over when they died. I can point out several characters that I wanted to reach into the book and hit in the face. I have wanted to reach into the book and shake the main character into using their common sense more than once. We know the difference between reality and fantasy, I promise, but that doesn't mean we aren't going to get emotional over our books like you get emotional over your movies. 

The concept is called the willing suspension of disbelief, which allows us to get into a fictional storyline in any form of media or theatre and be transported into another world mentally. For example, watching a play is something we know to be acting, just like we know movies are not reality. Books are no different. This is why fandoms (groups of fans who follow any series of books, movies, or games) exist. We all know saying Latin into the air will accomplish nothing while holding a plastic movie-replica wand. We know that the tardus is not going to show up at our front door and take us to other worlds. As much as we like our series of books, the majority of mentally healthy people learn and know the differences between reality and fantasy (except for very young children). By a certain age, we learn that entertainment is entertainment. 

Reviews Matter

Authors have an uphill climb when it comes to selling books and not being James Patterson or Stephen King. Why? We don't have a big name. Authors who are pretty much on their own need reviews to show up for their books. If you have the time and you liked it, one review more can mean more sales for authors who aren't large names and don't have an entire PR team behind them. Traditional publishing is hard and a lot of us end up on Amazon or Kobo instead due to higher royalties and an easier way to get our book (which does need professional editing in the long run) out to our audience. Reviews help people decide to buy it or decide not to buy it. 

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Do you have to write a whole paper on it? No, you can just choose the number of stars based on your opinion and say whether you enjoyed it or not. Oh, and try to keep the spoilers out of it or mark whether it has spoilers in the review. If you liked or loved it I'd highly suggest reviewing it. This can make a world of difference to many authors who lack a name to stand on. The majority of us don't have the big names that overshadow smaller authors. Think of us when you finish the novel and go review it. It takes five minutes and you don't need to do anything except be honest. Make sure you review the book based on the content, not the author. 

Don't Buy If You Aren't Sure You'll Like It

Apparently, authors can be impacted by returned books in many forms (including audible). Whenever possible, pass it on to a friend or donate it to a community box or a library. Someone else can enjoy that book you paid for. Better yet, don't buy it unless you know you'll be into it. The best way to find out if you like something is to hit up your local library or borrow it from a friend. The library is a way to figure out what you like so you don't waste money on a book you hate. Overdrive is a library online that you can use with either a phone number or a library card. It can even zip it to your mp3 player or device for your reading pleasure. Take a book for a test drive. Hate it? No harm done. Love it? Go back to the bookstore (after returning the book to the library) and get it for yourself. 

Rule of thumb, if you hate it halfway through or are bored to tears within five to ten chapters stop reading it. Take it back to the library or give it back to your friend. If you know you're not into it don't spend the money and return it. Whenever you do think you'll like it, then find out you were wrong, remember that donating books can help others. Some can't afford to have books of their own and depend entirely on libraries. 

Sources:

(7) Readers’ ETIQUETTE The do's and don’ts of reading. - YouTube

The Power of a Bad Review

 Public opinion doesn't just rule reputations. Media is controlled by reviews and what others think of it. What can one bad review do to a decent game, movie, or book? Let's dig into that today. 

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I was afraid to read the copy of Ready Player Two that I bought on a whim after seeing all the Youtube buzz on how bad it was. I started reading it, then found it to be good writing. Midnight In Salem (MID) - a Nancy Drew puzzle game - got lots of delays and didn't turn out like the rest of the Nancy Drew Herinteractive games. I played it and found it wasn't half bad (Perfect? No, but we knew it wouldn't be.). Today I'm diving in on why bad reviews kill media that isn't all that bad. 

Let me be clear on this. Some media do turn out to be dumpster fires attached to nuclear bombs. I'm admitting this openly. Some honest reviews do turn out to be true. Fifty Shades of Grey and 365 are both horrendous examples of this. Not only are they badly written, but they are abusive erotica. No, I didn't read them, but I watched a detailed review on the plot of both (done by Amanda the Jedi, who talked about them in enough detail to know the plot details in the book). Both are based on Twilight fanfiction, which is bad enough already. These are the best examples of honest reviews that I can think of, both of which are dumpster fires of books that I'd gut and repaint into book safes. 

Why Do We Trust Reviews

In a world that gives us false advertising daily, we want to hear what people actually thought about something, whether it be a doctor, movie, or videogame. We want something called transparency, which is part of why reviews are on websites and apps. The primary reason to give a review is if you loved it or hated it. Most who thought it was "okay but not great" don't post reviews very often. 

The more we trust the source of the review, the more we trust the review itself. If our friend says they loved the Twilight series we might pick it up at the library. Verbal reviews from those we are close to mean the most. Second to that might be celebrities or mainstream people we trust online. No connection to the person doing the review means we discard it as unreliable unless backed by friends/family or celebrities. 

We all want to know what we are buying and if we can trust those doing services for us (doctor, plumber, maid...). When a review is posted we read it, especially when it is something we think we want to invest in. At the time the new Nancy Drew game came out, several reviews were posted all at once. We care what others think. All humans that are connected influence each other. Don't pretend your friend's opinion of a new movie doesn't impact your will to go see it. My friend is the reason I watched Encanto. I would have missed a good movie without her opinion. 

The level of good and bad reviews impacts whether we put that Amazon item in our cart. Say an mp3 player has seven reviews. Upon counting the reviews, you see four good reviews and three bad ones. I already have doubts. Yet, what if six reviews were positive and only one was negative? I'd be more compelled to buy it. While I would read the content of the reviews (please do, some people review different objects and put it in the wrong place), negative reviews discouraged me from investing in that mp3 player. This is where having bad reviews all over the internet can kill a product or any form of media. 

The Internet  

We are all heavily influenced by people over social media. One bad review can get circulated everywhere in seconds. One share button can make a world of difference in either direction. Every person on Youtube or social media has an opportunity to draw attention to either flaws or positives. Sometimes the 'so bad it's good' works in a person's favor. Amanda the Jedi watches movies that are sometimes really bad and sometimes quite good. Saberspark does the same thing. Either way, the public is now aware of the movies and may go see them for themselves. Sharknado is one of those movies, just like The Room. There is a particular category that some media fits into called 'so bad it's good', which bizarrely benefits from bad reviews. We like to laugh at films so bad they are laughable. Neil Breen benefits from this. 

Youtube has whole channels that review media. Saberspark and Amanda the Jedi are just two of them. Markiplier and Jacksepticeye go into this category because they review games and expose the audience to what the game truly is. That is still a form of review (which convinced me to buy at least two games already). They have an impact on gamers and movie fans everywhere. So many people watch Youtube today instead of cable. You share that video and it goes right onto your social media, where it gets spread farther into the world wide web. This is why one bad review or one great review can make a massive difference in sales. My husband and I fell in love with West of Loathing and bought it after watching Markiplier play it. 

Worst Case Scenario

The worst-case scenario for a bad review is when no one checks to see if the review is actually accurate. Letting reviewers think for you is bad. Everyone has different standards for games and books. Some like it spicy, adventurous, perplexing, complex... I think you understand what I mean. Standards for one person do not equal the standards for you. The worst situation that can happen for any media is when everyone reads the review and blindly decides to not fact-check. Even worse, they can hit share after blindly believing it. 

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This situation does not apply to the 'so bad it's good', just to clarify. The human race likes to show people how bad something is when it is laughably awful. This category gains traction from people reacting to it. What doesn't gain traction are books and movies that don't reach the laughable level. It has to be so bad that it borders on ludicrous or people won't watch it for the laughs. Neil Breen makes it to this level. What makes it even funnier is that ludicrous movies often have directors with serious intent. You can't fake it to get here. Those that try fade into obscurity because they tried too hard.

Let's talk about a big example of this. Harry Potter got this treatment in the Christian Bubble. It was labeled as evil by some Christian moms, who then forbid it in their house. Some individuals took that as a challenge to read it, others didn't, and it still remains today. It had enough good reviews to keep it going in secular culture. It couldn't be stopped. Yet, among some Christian homes that never did their research, it is still thought to be evil. Fact-checking, let's make sure we're doing that.

Harry Potter may not have gone under, and I'm glad of that, but others have. The true worst-case scenario is that a company with a good game, movie, or product can't make ends meet and can't keep going. Bad reviews that get left unchecked can obliterate a company. This is the saddest ending to this story. Bad reviews can also kill a TV show, too. There is always a risk to targeting smaller niche groups. Media directed at small fandoms is a risk, which is why small fandoms seldom get large-scale productions. 

Sources:

Here Are 2 Reasons Why Customers Trust Online Reviews (revlocal.com)

Public Indecency Standards

 The societal standards have changed from century to century. In the 1800s you could probably get arrested for wearing skimpy clothing. Today? You have to be nude to get arrested. Let's dig into what public indecency used to be and still might be.

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Indecency would be, for example, running around nude in a public place. You can be arrested for that and should be arrested for that. Ohio's law states having sex in public, exposing yourself in public, or looking like you are masturbating or having sex in public will get you a criminal record and a reputation as a sex offender. It is not okay to do any of this, nor should it ever be. Urinating in a public place is also an arrestable crime.

It changes constantly when it comes to what is decent and indecent in society's fashion. It also depends on where you are. Puritans were probably tolerating less than other villages would, for example. Without any further introduction, I give you what I found on public indecency from the 1700s and onward.

Theatrical Scandal

We love theatre and movies today, but I can tell you that the Puritans did not. Women and some races of people were not allowed on the stage years later. Theatre did not have a particularly great start in the 1600s era and it was rather hard for women and foreigners to act even after it finally made it. Do you know why blackface happened? Black people weren't allowed to act on stage for a while. Do you know why men were in drag for Shakespeare? Women weren't allowed on the stage for a while, too. Surprisingly, Quakers did propose a form of theatre and got vetoed every time by the English Crown. You could get arrested for performing a theatre production in the 1600s. 

1700 Massachusetts put in a law that lasted 40 years preventing any space for theatre. It was considered immoral. Shows still happened in secret, however. The late 1700s was the time theatre fought back legally by forming an association. They successfully repealed the previous law preventing it five to ten years later.

There were plays that discussed sexual topics and there were scandals as a result. Art has been censored throughout time. Less of the sexual topics are being censored as time goes on. What is decent today would shock someone from the 16 to 1800s easily, including any discussion of sexual anything. Sex was taboo, which is still true in some communities today (depending on where you were raised). Homosexual topics were highly taboo, as well, though I can tell you that it was still happening in secret. There is nothing new under the sun, dear readers. Just because society won't talk about it doesn't mean it didn't happen. At any rate, sex and homosexual topics were considered off the table for a long period of time and still make a lot of our society uncomfortable. That doesn't mean some people didn't try to put it in their productions, though.

Clothing

Women in pants is a common one that gets spoken of, as well as women getting arrested for swimsuits that we'd never consider illegal today. People wore more clothing swimming way back when than we do currently. Bikinis caused much scandal when they came on the scene. While we're at it, we'll consider tattoos and how they were attached to crime and prostitution. Women with tattoos were considered very bad news. Today none of this matters to us because most of us wear jeans and shorts out in public daily. Women wearing pants is not front-page news, nor is a woman lounging in a bikini. You'll only get arrested if you take that off and run around nude. Tattoos are also not an issue these days. 

If anything looked like lingerie on top - even if fully clothed otherwise- the silhouette was enough. The open dress was one dress that only pregnant women were supposed to wear from the 16 to the 1700s. I mentioned the Puritans, right? They influenced fashion more than you think. Flashing ankle was scandalous in the 1800s. This came from a society that wanted to suppress lust as much as possible, which is why sex was such a curiosity that more Puritan youth had sex outside of marriage. This usually ended in a shot-gun wedding, should the woman become pregnant. 

Do you remember those youth events that didn't let you wear a bikini without a t-shirt over it? If you think the bikini is scandalous, try the one-piece being a scandal. 1907 was the beginning of the one-piece bathing suit. A swimmer got arrested for it because it came above her knee. The first one resembled a wetsuit, which for us is more decent than most garden-variety bikini tops. Society then did not like it. That rule about not wearing a bikini without a t-shirt is now absolutely hilarious to me. 

Flapper dresses were a scandal by themselves. Phryne Fisher played with fire by dressing herself as she did, and the only reason she could was her money and position. Flapper is slang for "young prostitute". These dresses were moral uproar in the form of fabric. Add to that list bullet bras (bras that are shaped like they sound), mini-skirts, sheer shirts, women's tuxedos, slip dresses, and the 2000s trend of thongs being visible. The thong one I do agree with, however, as that is rather tacky. I also get perpetually frustrated by shirts that show my bra no matter how skin-colored it is, so I do think white sheer shirts are annoying, too.

Dancing

Is shimmying scandalous to you? It was in 1920. It was banned in some places. Is Elvis' dancing offensive to you? That was 1950. Madonna was considered too sexy, as well. Finally, we get to grinding on the homecoming dance floor and twerking. Dance and sex have been connected in many people's minds for years. Yet, in 1900, the turkey trot, bunny hug, and grizzly bear were shameful. If you let them happen in a dance hall you could be in trouble. Below the turkey trot is demonstrated, and it looks so tame that I can't even believe it was discouraged. The bunny hug looks like an excuse to be cheek-to-cheek, but not much else. I'm putting the videos for the bunny hug and the grizzly bear at the end for you to watch. It is absolutely hilarious. 

Dance, as Footloose suggests, is taken as a sexual act in some people's opinions. What many see as innocent fun is taken as indecent activity. Puritans did not completely ban dancing, but forbid mixed (or mixt) dancing because it encouraged adultery in their opinion. 

Jazz music and dancing caused no loss of scandal, given the ragtime dances attached. There are specific singers that were considered indecent, like Josephine Baker. It also happened more in places like brothels or gentlemen's clubs early on. Prohibition fueled private, secret clubs and ended up fueling jazz music and dance. Private clubs hired more black musicians (the culture jazz originated from). The origin of this music also has a great deal to do with racism. Jazz got blamed for a lot it didn't do due to its place of origin and the racism. We're not even talking about the sexy nature of jazz dance, yet, either. Move over bunny hug, because a new dirty dance has come to town. The charleston didn't get such a warm welcome. 

I didn't want to put Josephine Baker doing the charleston on here because she isn't so clothed in most of her dances, but I found a video of her dancing that shows off her personal style. It's worth watching. This is the tamest one I could find. Forewarning, she is an exotic dancer in most of the videos you find her in. Be prepared for some nudity and moulin rouge style of dance if you do look up more of her dance footage later. 

 

Conclusion

Check out the bunny hug and the grizzly bear down below if you have time to do so. Today there are some of these standards that still apply and many that haven't applied for years. It also depends on your community and how you were raised, as well as where you were raised. I hope you enjoyed a look at the history of public indecency today and then. This was only a brief snapshot, so check out my sources down below. 

Sources:

Public Indecency Law | Justia

Ohio Indecent Exposure Laws - FindLaw

Indecent and Censorship of American Theater | Seattle Rep

25 Things That Were Considered Scandalous 100 Years Ago But Are Totally Normal Now — Best Life (bestlifeonline.com)

11 Fashion Items That Were Super Scandalous For Their Time — PHOTOS (bustle.com)

A Short History Of Dance: Dirty Dancing Through the Years (yourteenmag.com)

Dirty Dancing In The Early 1900s : NPR History Dept. : NPR

Opposition: A History of Social Dance in America -- AAS Online Exhibition (americanantiquarian.org)

Culture Shock: Flashpoints: Music and Dance: Early Jazz (pbs.org)

Jazz Controversy (AtoZ Challenge 2016 – Jazz Age Jazz) (theoldshelter.com)

1920's Dances (1920s-fashion-and-music.com)